My tween who turns 12 in less than a month has been asking to have an Instagram account for a long time, and I mean long! I always made her work for it, she had to demonstrate being responsible, do her bit at home to help out etc
I have had an Instagram account for a long time, and so she has been watching me use it and it sparked an interest. I had many talks with her about using Instagram, and that she will only have a private account, this is a MUST! Which means not just anyone can follow her and it has to be approved, she needs to check with us. If she doesn’t know the person then it’s a big fat NO!!! We have access to her account at all times. Many girls her age seem to only post selfies with duck face pouts, I mean come on! A selfie here and there fine but not hundred’s of them. Anyway thus began our lessons about photos and the purpose of having an Instagram account.
We talked about not posting photos that show any of your bits (if you know what I mean). In her bio, which anyone can view I didn’t want any info about which school she went to or her date of birth, pretty much no personal info. When commenting on other post’s only positive comments. Also besides just following friends and families I wanted her to follow some other inspirational accounts, like I am Kid President, Humans of NY, a few of the National Geo accounts for inspiration with travel photos etc
The reason she wanted an Instagram account is because, she wants to take photos of food, places that we visit, hanging out with her friends, dancing, nature etc So I thought that was cool. I did say to her that the biggest fear for me was I didn’t want her to see what her friends had and what they did, and to then look at her life and be like, well my life sucks because it’s so boring! Or if her friends didn’t “like” or “comment” on her photo not to take that to heart. If she loves taking photos of things that interests her then don’t worry about anyone else.
At the end of the day she is a good kid and I trust her!