This blog post is definitely not one for the guys, so look away! A couple of girlfriends and I were talking today about puberty so that prompted me to share this post with you and what I have done for my daughter.
We all know that the time is coming when puberty graces us with it’s presence, for many this is confronting and for others not so much. But whether we like it or not, it’s happening, so there is no point hiding from it, the best form of action is being prepared. I bought a book for Miss 11 last year by Kaz Cooke called Girls Stuff from 8-10 years old. We went through the book together and it was pretty funny and light-hearted so it took away the awkwardness about it all. She did say, “mum it’s so gross!”, so I said to her that yes it may be gross and it may be annoying and stuff but it’s part of life, this is how a women’s body work’s and we can’t change it (until you hit menopause). After this, she just accepted it all and is okay about it.
I figure the more open we are about it and the more comfortable I am talking about it, this in turn has made her more comfortable.
Right, first things first, I wanted to start her on a good skin care routine. The skin takes such a hammering during puberty, I had awful acne throughout high school and after, it was just horrible! Both my girls from the time they were born, I have always used moisturiser on their skin morning and night, so it’s something that is second nature for them now. I researched a bit about skincare products that are suitable for young skin and I wanted natural products. I finally decided on Oxygen Skincare. Their skin care is 100% natural, made right here in New Zealand and certified organic and not tested on animals. Check out their website for more details.
Next thing is liners for their underwear. It’s a good way for them to get familiar with knowing how to put it on and take it off, and also when the day arrives and they get their period, knowing that the liner is there initially will probably stop them from freaking out. I personally think it’s a good idea to always wear a liner everyday.
The next step is putting together a little kit that they can keep with them at school, either in their bags or if they have lockers at school they can keep this in there.
To put together the kit we both went to the supermarket and were looking at all the products and working everything out. Involving your child in this process I think is a good idea. This is the kit that we put together.
I bought the pencil-case from Kmart. I think it was around $8-$12, and it has two zippers. Inside the bag are two spare pairs of underwear. We also have scented sanitary disposal bags, they come in a box and inside the box is two packs (the black pack with paisley’s) so we just have one lot in the case. We also put in special wet wipes that are for the (oh god how do I say it) your private parts or as the pack says “intimate wipes” (everyone has all sort’s of names for it), a small bottle of hand sanitiser and 4 pads the brand she chose was U by Kotex. I didn’t add in any paracetamol tablets because well she doesn’t really know how to take tablets and I know she school will have some form of pain relief if she absolutely needs it (I’m hoping she will be fine).
I hope that by doing all of this we are ready for when it happens and I know that if she is at school, she will be okay and know exactly what to do. Information and preparation is key in avoiding total tween or teen meltdown!!!
If you have any other tips or things that you do or have done, I would love to hear it.